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Relationships & Self-Connection

When you lose touch with yourself, it’s hard to feel close to anyone else.

Why do I keep repeating the same patterns?

We all want to feel close to others—but sometimes, the way we learned to survive gets in the way of the connection we crave. You might notice you’re always the one holding things together, or that you shut down when things get tense. Maybe you find yourself drawn to the same types of relationships that leave you feeling unseen, or you struggle to feel comfortable being alone.

These patterns don’t happen because you’re broken or “bad at relationships.” They’re learned responses—adaptations your mind and body created to protect you from hurt, rejection, or loss. Over time, though, those same strategies that once kept you safe can start to feel isolating or exhausting.

Therapy offers space to slow down and understand why you respond the way you do—without shame or blame. It’s about untangling what’s truly yours from what you picked up to survive, and learning to connect from a place of authenticity rather than fear.


Our Work Together

  • We'll start by getting curious about the roles you play in relationships - the caretaker, the peacekeeper, the one who pulls you away.

    Mapping Relationship Patterns

  • Together, we'll trace the threads between your past and present. How did your early experiences teach you to reach for others - or to hold back? When you understand the "why," new ways of relating become possible.

    Exploring Early Attachment Themes

  • Your body remembers what your mind forgets. We'll notice where stress lives, where calm hides, and help you build safety in your own skin again.

    Reconnecting to Your Body’s Cues

  • Boundaries aren't walls; they're the shape of your self-respect. Together, we'll practice small steps - saying no, asking clearly - and holding steady when guilt or discomfort show up.

    Practicing Boundaries in Real Time

  • You may carry stories like "I'm too much" or "I always mess things up." We'll gently rewrite those with compassion, until your inner voice starts sounding a little more like truth.

    Rewriting Internal Narratives

  • Naming what you feel is an act of courage. We'll learn to meet your emotions with curiosity instead of judgment - so they can guide you, not control you.

    Building Emotional Awareness

  • This is the heart of our work: learning to trust yourself again. To know your worth, follow your intuition, and build relationships that feel steady, reciprocal, and real.

    Integrating Self-Trust, and Self-Compassion

My Approach

When we work together, we start by slowing down and noticing what’s happening underneath the surface—what you feel, what you need, and what old habits show up when you try to connect. The goal isn’t to push past your patterns; it’s to understand why they’re there and create space for something new.

I integrate an attachment-based, trauma-informed lens with relational and parts-work approaches (like Internal Family Systems) so that we can explore your experiences in a way that feels safe, curious, and collaborative.

You deserve relationships that feel steady, reciprocal, and real - including the one you have with yourself.

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